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Say, I have an idea: It's not a new idea by any means. In fact, it's so old fashioned as to be revolutionary. It's an idea that might save a LOT of people a lot of anxiety and drama if they bought into it:

Family and good friends are where it's at, and dating is just something you do when you are looking for someone to marry.
All this 'my mate', and 'my girlfriend', and 'my boyfriend' stuff... How about just simply calling them 'best friend', and leave it at that? Personally, I am glad I missed out on all the drama of dating when I was younger. I did some dating back in my early 20's - mostly one-offs that never went anywhere. I did have a girlfriend when I was twenty, and of all things, we met on the computer and chatted & got to know one another before even seeing each other face-to-face. It sounds like no big deal, but this was before the internet existed. It was short and lasted about a year. The friendship sort of faded away when she went one way, and I went another, but I still wish it had remained just a good friendship. Dating took it to another level.

All the other dates were just me taking a friend who happened to be a girl out for some fun, and it never went anywhere, which is fine. A couple of them are still friends, though it's more like a 'facebook' kind of friendship where we just keep up with each other's lives.

It wasn't until my late-20's that I finally grew up, and found the love of my life. So, for those first ten years of my adult life, I simply made memories with good friends and our adventures. I'm really glad that I never felt the pressure to date someone - I always looked at a 'date' as a way of sizing someone up for possible marriage, and I wasn't really ready for that sort of commitment. It was liberating and pretty much drama-free.

There's too much emphasis on having a girlfriend/boyfriend these days, I think - - really: Just be happy being single for now. Singledom doesn't generally last very long.  Statistics show that the average age of first marriage is now in the late 20's and early 30's anyway. Most people have been married by the time they are 40. About half of my best friends got married in their late 30's and early 40's and so far, they have stayed that way. So, why worry about being single before that? You might as well be happy being you, and just enjoy the first decade by discovering the beauty of life, and working on your character so that you are a solid person for that future spouse.

For now, stick to family, and cultivate friendships with good people. That's where it's at!

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Masters student of geophysics at Michigan State University. Amateur radio operator, motorcyclist and 23 year member of the AMA; Christian family man, electrical engineer and aspiring volunteer freelance mascot for local charities.

This fine fursuit was constructed by :iconlilleahwest: of Beastcub Creations.
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Say, I have an idea: It's not a new idea by any means. In fact, it's so old fashioned as to be revolutionary. It's an idea that might save a LOT of people a lot of anxiety and drama if they bought into it:

Family and good friends are where it's at, and dating is just something you do when you are looking for someone to marry.
All this 'my mate', and 'my girlfriend', and 'my boyfriend' stuff... How about just simply calling them 'best friend', and leave it at that? Personally, I am glad I missed out on all the drama of dating when I was younger. I did some dating back in my early 20's - mostly one-offs that never went anywhere. I did have a girlfriend when I was twenty, and of all things, we met on the computer and chatted & got to know one another before even seeing each other face-to-face. It sounds like no big deal, but this was before the internet existed. It was short and lasted about a year. The friendship sort of faded away when she went one way, and I went another, but I still wish it had remained just a good friendship. Dating took it to another level.

All the other dates were just me taking a friend who happened to be a girl out for some fun, and it never went anywhere, which is fine. A couple of them are still friends, though it's more like a 'facebook' kind of friendship where we just keep up with each other's lives.

It wasn't until my late-20's that I finally grew up, and found the love of my life. So, for those first ten years of my adult life, I simply made memories with good friends and our adventures. I'm really glad that I never felt the pressure to date someone - I always looked at a 'date' as a way of sizing someone up for possible marriage, and I wasn't really ready for that sort of commitment. It was liberating and pretty much drama-free.

There's too much emphasis on having a girlfriend/boyfriend these days, I think - - really: Just be happy being single for now. Singledom doesn't generally last very long.  Statistics show that the average age of first marriage is now in the late 20's and early 30's anyway. Most people have been married by the time they are 40. About half of my best friends got married in their late 30's and early 40's and so far, they have stayed that way. So, why worry about being single before that? You might as well be happy being you, and just enjoy the first decade by discovering the beauty of life, and working on your character so that you are a solid person for that future spouse.

For now, stick to family, and cultivate friendships with good people. That's where it's at!

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September-Colors Featured By Owner Jan 15, 2015
Thanks for the llama and faves!! :'D Your fursuit is awesome!!
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Windicious Featured By Owner Nov 27, 2014  Student Traditional Artist
Just wondering if you saw the commission I finished for you ;w;
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Tychoaussie Featured By Owner Nov 29, 2014  Hobbyist Photographer
Not yet! Ill go looking for it right now!
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morcyd Featured By Owner Nov 23, 2014  Hobbyist
Tycho? Is this you?  41.media.tumblr.com/e04d5db5e9…
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Tychoaussie Featured By Owner Nov 24, 2014  Hobbyist Photographer
No, I didn't post that. My student did!
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Woozles-Wonders Featured By Owner Nov 17, 2014  Professional Artisan Crafter
Thanks for the watch hun! :love:
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Closetfur1 Featured By Owner Nov 11, 2014
I am so fortunate to have met you, at MFF2013. This fortunate chain of events, has raised my confidence, and motivation. Thank You!Hug 
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Tychoaussie Featured By Owner Nov 11, 2014  Hobbyist Photographer
You are most welcome! Though, in the grand scheme of things, we both must continue to keep this in the proper perspective, and guard against letting it grow bigger than our every-day relationships, faith, and job. To do so means losing so much else - I love fursuiting, but if it meant losing my family or my wife, I just wouldn't be able to enjoy it with the same zeal. I'm blessed and fortunate to have had her finally come to understanding. The first eight months were very, very bittersweet. I truly didn't grow to love this hobby until my wife finally gave it her blessing. 

I hope some day you are as fortunate. It will require unswerving nobility and integrity on your part, I think. That, and meekness and patience, which it sounds like you already have. I wish you well, and perhaps we'll meet again someday soon!
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MetalWolfGemstone Featured By Owner Oct 28, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
Hey Tycho! My friend found you on Tumblr! A student of yours took a photo
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(However some comments I think are mean and stupid. I'd be the happiest kid alive if my teacher did something like you did!)
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Tychoaussie Featured By Owner Oct 29, 2014  Hobbyist Photographer
That was something which happened a year ago, and yes, I simply ignore the dumb comments, and concentrate on the 100 others that are good. It's been reblogged something like 170,000 times on tumblr, it's been featured on the Chive, and on cringepics, so there's no worrying about it. People make fun of the President of the USA, they make fun of the Pope, and likely even Mother Theresa, so I'm not worried about it. There's always people like that out there. heh :)
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